Myths Men Have About Sex
Sex Myths Men Believe
by Justine van der Leun
For many men, there are some all-too common beliefs about sex that undermine marriages. Les Parrott, Ph.D., author of "Crazy Good Sex" and founder of RealReationships.com, debunks some of the enduring myths men have about sex and offers ways for men to rekindle their relationships and sex lives.
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Mens Sex Myths
Male Myth: A Happy Marriage Means You Won't Be Tempted
It's not the temptation that signals a problem, it's the giving into it. "Every guy faces temptations, no matter how healthy and strong his relationship with his wife is," says Parrott. A loving relationship can't protect against flirtatious co-workers or attractive acquaintances, but men do have the ability to control their urges. Parrott suggests that men (and women, too) keep pictures of their significant others and families in their offices, on their cell phones, or in their wallets, to remind themselves and others of their commitment.
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Male Myth: Sex Starts When the Man Gets an Erection
On the contrary, good sex for a woman often begins long before the moment of her partner's full salute. "It's the gentle caresses and loving attitude that are essential to great sex for a woman," says Parrott. Satisfying sex for both partners begins with foreplay, whether it be fast and fun or drawn-out and sensual. But men who give their wives and girlfriends affection throughout the day, provide her with pleasure and act thoughtfully are more likely to get lucky at night.
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Male Myth: The Best Sex is Spontaneous
"The truth is that some of the best sex couples have is scheduled and planned for," says Parrott. Though it may sound mundane, scheduled sex can be a boon for a busy, sex-starved couple waiting for that spur-of-the-moment escapade that never comes. The appointment doesn't necessarily have to be on date night; it can simply be something to look forward to on an otherwise-average Tuesday evening, once the kids are tucked in.
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Male Myth: The Best Sex Occurs When the Man Takes the Lead
Sex is a team sport, not a one-man game. As such, it's most titillating when both partners are getting their needs met and fantasies realized. "Research shows that the best sex is often the result of the man letting his partner have a lot of influence over their love-making experience," says Parrott. Men: Encourage your partners to express themselves about their sexual wants and needs. Fulfilling another's desires can sometime be the secret to spectacular sex.
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Male Myth: Good Sex Can Make Up For Bad Communication
Make-up sex loses its charm pretty quickly when it's the only sex you ever have. Communication -- not a few sessions of steamy sex -- is the foundation of every successful relationship. "Communication meltdowns and tense conversations occur when people feel threatened, so both partners should work to make each other feel emotionally safe," says Parrott. Bonus: A deep emotional connection greatly improves a sexual connection.
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Male Myth: Men Want More Sex Than Women Do
Hordes of horny women beg to differ. It's not that women don't crave a good romp, it's just that the mechanics of getting turned-on are a little more complicated for women than those of a man. "When a man wants to have sex, it's the only thing on his mind. For a woman, the libido tends to be more easily distracted -- say, by laundry -- and is cyclical during the month," explains Parrott. For men to get more time in bed with their wives and girlfriends (or to just be generally considerate human beings), they should try simply separating whites from darks and loading the dishwasher. The payoff is well worth it.
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Male Myth: Sex With the Same Person Gets Boring
Not if your make the effort to keep it interesting. "Research shows that people married for a long time have the most frequent and satisfying sex lives of anyone -- even the swinging singles," reports Parrott. That's because committed couples trust one another enough to express their deepest desires. Moreover, the emotional connection established over years allows for erotic levels of intimacy. Since sex is often as much about trust as it is about chemistry, long-term relationships offer the possibility of a high-quality (and high-quantity) sex life.
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PsykostX 03:16:51 AM Aug 27 2009
Also, Craving sex is the reason none of us have good parents. A great screw is amazing (especially if the girl doesn't mind choking on large objects) but its also kind of gross to be obcessed with once your teenage hormones cool off....go look at pictures of viral STDs. I had a girl one time wanted to hook up so bad, but she kept coughing this disgusting cough, not smokers cough, more like siphilis cough...ugh, and she was only 19. What is wrong with parents these days. Girls are all trashy *****4cash, and every one of my male friends became a shady theif. Thats why I just sit around and study. I will make a few million, and then import some swedish models like my mom's bachelor friend does...hes the MAN!
PsykostX 03:09:59 AM Aug 27 2009
Theres only one way to tell if a girl is faking...if you have to change your sheets, she wasn't faking.
MakeMineVaWine 10:47:30 PM Aug 17 2009
They forgot one of the biggest myths men buy into....that women in porn vids who scream and moan are "not faking" LOLOLOL!!!
SpiritLoveYou1 02:42:14 PM Jun 22 2009
tune into maximumrealityradio.com at " the spirit show" ,and you'll see why im so god-dam against marriage and the so called commited monogomous relationships in america.also when u go to the site click the link that reads online wackos ,im sure you'll get a real kick out of that section. for all questions and comments hit me up at authintecslef69@yahoo.com or call in at 201-850-8897
Asia Lakeya 03:07:09 AM Jun 22 2009
hay,,we all crave great sex,,and why not,,,but if u find that one person that u click with sexxually but ya marry some one else think u have found love and still u stray back to that one person is it because of that great sex or is it because ya can ,, lol where is the love who loves who ???? lol.. right sex is sex no matter what makeing love is bull shit,,in the end we all it all ends in sexually release..love is a look a touch a kiss a smile a laugh we love for amonent,,and then we become bored and look else were,,but going back to taht person with the great sex for yeas and years,is it the sex or is it love?????? yea i love u u love me but hay i need great sex,,we all lose except sexually so enjoy the great sex,,life is short ,, so go for it all the so called love and the grreat s ex ,best of both worlds,,
Sean0007 09:45:16 PM Jun 21 2009
they are right. Spontaneous sex is the best! My girl and I were having dinner when I got the urge and she got the urge to have sex. So, I ripped off her clothes and she ripped of mine and we both threw the dishes and utensils off the table and made mad passionate animalistic love on the table. Only problem is, we will not be allowed to eat at Denny's again!!!
IPingThere4Iam 09:22:04 PM Jun 21 2009
Poor JupiterMercury maybe you just smelled bad bro. No doubt she was getting it somewhere...just not YOU. You need a woman to feel like a man? What do you feel like without one? A gerbil? And your advice to men is wake up and stop dreaming? Just because you f*cked up and married wrong doesnt give you the authority to advise men on their married lives. Put the viagra bottle down and retire with dignity. Or sure as this day is done your heart will fail you..... in bed with a chick that couldnt give a sh*t.
